The best man’s essential duties guide

14 July 2016

The best man’s essential duties guide

One of the greatest things that can ever happen to a man is to find someone he wants to marry and have the wedding of a lifetime. The second-best thing is being asked to be a best man and to live it all vicariously without the whole marriage inconvenience! For anyone who has been honoured with the role, they will tell you that it can be a surprising amount of work. While hair and makeup aren’t usually a huge consideration, and “groomzillas” are less common than their counterpart, it’s one day that must simply go right.

The best way to make sure you’re best man fit is to be prepared. Prepare everything: your speech, the buck’s party, the after party, the booze for when it inevitably runs out, and then be prepared to shell out when needed. It’s a tremendous honour to be the key figure amongst the groomsmen and you should treat it with respect. Make yourself known to the other gentlemen (or ladies) with whom the groom is friends and be their go-to before the big day.

It’s the groom’s responsibility to get to the altar, and you need to ensure that he does. That means you oversee what he eats and drinks prior to the ceremony, and make sure he has whatever he needs after. If anyone can tell the groom to pull his neck in with the breakfast beer, it’s the best man, so don’t be afraid to put your foot down. And always keep water close-by.

When dressing in the morning, make sure suits and shirts are pressed, and shoes are polished. Lay everything out the night before so you know you’re ready to rock. And if anything’s missing you still have time to panic-buy cufflinks, belts or pocket squares. Bear in mind that many couples will have a photographer present to capture the prep. When the photographer arrives it’s time to stop waltzing around in your boxers and start getting serious. It’s T-2 hours to nuptials and time to get your suits on.

At the service and then the reception, make the guests feel welcome, particularly older crew. Introduce yourself, ask something about them and be sure to dance with mums. Keep the speech clean, but cleverly irreverent and make it about the bride and groom, not just him—it’s his wedding day, not his 21st birthday. Go for laughs and go for tears—just remember to be memorable